Even if we weren’t in the beating heart of Valentine’s Day season, there’s never a bad time to talk about attachment styles. Much has been written in recent years about how the relationships we form as adults—romantic and otherwise—are rooted in how we experienced (or didn’t experience) emotional safety as children. Turns out, a lot of what our brain tells us about feeling safe results not in security, but in ever-repeating patterns that can make us pretty miserable (emotional roller coaster, anyone?).
Fortunately, we’re in this human stuff together. If you’re attachment style-curious, here are a few audiobooks that explore the psychology of connection so that you can build new patterns that heal, not hurt.